Jonathan Wood
Relationship Status
In A Relationship
Highschool
Central Baptist School
Interests
Brittany, music, theology, philosophy
Favorite Music
I will listen to anything and everything but most rap
Favorite Movies
The Godfather Trilogy, Mission: Impossible, Unbreakable, A Beautiful Mind, The Departed
Favorite Books
Heart of Darkness, the Bible
Other Websites
http://clean.i8.com
Abstinence and Age (Almost Alliteration)
March 05 2007
I don't have a full opinion on whether or not abstinence-only sex ed should be taught because my school had no sex ed. What does irritate me is the following argument:
"They shouldn't teach abstinence only sex ed because kids will still have sex."
Excuse me? Maybe we should stop telling men not to beat their wives because it still happens. Or perhaps we should stop saying that murder is wrong because it still happens. This is not an argument to help your case. Good gracious.
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So Mom was fairly unhappy today to find out I had gotten off the meal plan at Tech without first consulting her and Dad because I shouldn't be making these decisions. This re-raised a question I've been pondering for about a month now - When do I hit the magical barrier at which I am "old enough" to make certain decisions? I'm going to sound a bit like a whiny teenager here (I am one; why shouldn't I embrace it?), but why is it that I'm too young to make decisions like this? At lunch today, Mom was lamenting (and mentioned lamenting to various other bystanders at church this morning) about my not studying engineering anymore. Apparently I'm too young to decide what to do with my life. I mean, I'm only 19; I know I have tons to learn and tons of experience to gather, but let's face it: I can't learn and I can't experience if I let her live a life through me. So I'm frustrated about the following:
a. Direct quote - "I keep saying you need to be an engineer."
b. Direct quote - "You can't make decisions like this. You need us to do it."
c. Direct quote - "Are you really, really sure you don't want to come to Memphis for your degree?"
Is it too much to ask to let me make a few decisions and, likely, more than a few mistakes for myself?
The reason I'm putting this on Phusebox is that if I confronted her about this (as I tried to do before), she gets upset and starts crying, then Dad gets pissed at me, too. That never turns out well.
"They shouldn't teach abstinence only sex ed because kids will still have sex."
Excuse me? Maybe we should stop telling men not to beat their wives because it still happens. Or perhaps we should stop saying that murder is wrong because it still happens. This is not an argument to help your case. Good gracious.
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So Mom was fairly unhappy today to find out I had gotten off the meal plan at Tech without first consulting her and Dad because I shouldn't be making these decisions. This re-raised a question I've been pondering for about a month now - When do I hit the magical barrier at which I am "old enough" to make certain decisions? I'm going to sound a bit like a whiny teenager here (I am one; why shouldn't I embrace it?), but why is it that I'm too young to make decisions like this? At lunch today, Mom was lamenting (and mentioned lamenting to various other bystanders at church this morning) about my not studying engineering anymore. Apparently I'm too young to decide what to do with my life. I mean, I'm only 19; I know I have tons to learn and tons of experience to gather, but let's face it: I can't learn and I can't experience if I let her live a life through me. So I'm frustrated about the following:
a. Direct quote - "I keep saying you need to be an engineer."
b. Direct quote - "You can't make decisions like this. You need us to do it."
c. Direct quote - "Are you really, really sure you don't want to come to Memphis for your degree?"
Is it too much to ask to let me make a few decisions and, likely, more than a few mistakes for myself?
The reason I'm putting this on Phusebox is that if I confronted her about this (as I tried to do before), she gets upset and starts crying, then Dad gets pissed at me, too. That never turns out well.
Nathan Moore
March 05 2007
hey man... agreed on the sex ed thing; however, I know that abstinence would not set well with most kids - It is hard to educate kids on that while encouraging them to do the right thing...
And, don't worry about the school stuff. I think 19 is old enough to make decisions. Just make sure that you are doing something that you are passionate about. I don't think what you do in life needs to be a one-time decision, I think it is more like a process. So just do what you love to do.
Jimmy Dillon
March 05 2007
I too agree about the sex ed. And I can relate to what you're going through with your parents. It can be downright aggravating, but just try to remember that they care about you and want what's best for you, even if they are perhaps a little misguided in their methods when it comes to helping you achieve independence.
Elizabeth
March 07 2007
I certainly see their point about sex ed though. Since over 70% of girls and 80% of boys will be having sex before they leave their teen years, it is obvious that abstinence-only sex ed is ineffective. While pre-marital sex is not ideal, these kids should be given the information they need to protect themselves when they do make poor decisions.
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