One thing I probably can never hope to understand is why people are so reluctant to accept this basic truth: one's actions are predicated upon one's desires.  Vice-versa, we also see that it is easy to determine one's desires from one's actions.  A person will work for something he/she wants, but will not work for something he/she doesn't want.  Actions are also good at determine the amount of desire, or priority, in someone's life.  One would like to do "a," but not by sacrificing "b," which more often than not is their own comfort.

In other words, stop lying to yourself.  If you truly want "a", you would do what was required to achieve "a" goals.  Even the Bible teaches us that, if we love God ("a"), we will keep His commandments ("a" goals/codicil).  We could even say that "a" goals are requirements to achieving "a", or at the very least proving the desire to achieve it.

So, how does this apply to life?  Well, if you care about someone, you make an effort to supply that person's wants and needs.  Basically, you yield your will to theirs.  Also, if you want to do something, say, be a part of a team, you will yield your desires for the good of the team.

Kapeesh?

***All this is is a roundabout way of saying all you people people, socialites at your core, really don't care about the people with whom you associate because, if you did, you would yield to them for a decent relationship.  Instead, tons of people just go around acting as if they have relationships with everyone when, honestly, their relationships consist of very little, save a "Hi" and a hug.  Youth socialites rarely have time-consuming real relationships because they get in the way of several fake relationships which supply nothing to any individual except the excuse of being "busy".  It's an issue of quality over quantity.